Tori is AFAB (assigned female at birth), on the Autism Spectrum, and nonbinary. In 2020, Tori was experiencing some depression. I assumed—because of the pandemic—this was because of the social isolation, but it was deeper than that. Tori’s depression devolved into self harm, and self harm devolved into running away, and ultimately, our first hospital admission. In the midst of all of this, Tori came out as transgender and gay. 

While I searched for help, I noticed a gap - I could find mental health support, but I couldn’t find local support for LGBTQIA+ youth and families. Mental health and LGBTQIA+ support are not only not mutually exclusive, but for queer youth, they are deeply interdependent. Support and validation of who we are is a key ingredient to mental wellness—not the only ingredient, but a crucial one. 

We were frustrated (to put it mildly). We felt alone. As we processed our frustration at what we couldn’t access—community, support, camaraderie—we decided to create these things ourselves. 

In 2021, Tori and I created Mercer County’s first and only LGBTQIA+ support group for youth and parents. Shortly afterwards, the COVID-19 pandemic threw a wrench in our in-person plans - but we kept going online. 

In 2022, we hosted the inaugural Pride Picnic event, where 50 people attended. We hosted a second Pride Picnic event in 2023 (where 100 people attended), and have been going strong ever since. In June 2024, with support from our local community, we opened our physical space where we host youth and family support groups, arts & craft nights, game nights, and other events. Our space also has a growing library and clothing and supply cabinet!

Our core goal is to bridge the gap between the LGBTQIA+ community and affirming mental health supports. Families and individuals shouldn’t have to brave their journeys alone or feel isolated. We can heal together, in community. 

We continue to gather resources, bring people together, and we continue to grow and heal. 

Tori’s journey—from closeted, depressed and suffering, to happy, out of the closet, with access to mental health support and stability… and my journey as a mother—from feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and alone to finding empathy, acceptance, and Love—speaks to how life-affirming community support can be. 

Join us! Our motto is “Don’t Journey Alone.”

Much love, 

Pam & Tori 🦋